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For each of the following questions, select the answer that resonates with you the most. You'll receive your results as soon as you're finished!

Question 2 of 35

1. How often do you feel resentful of other people’s situations?

A

Never

B

Occasionally

C

More often than I’d like

D

All the time

Question 3 of 35

2. Do you feel you have low self-worth and/or low self-esteem?

A

Definitely. This is a constant struggle

B

I feel this way a lot, but also have days where I feel great

C

Sometimes issues will crop up, but I’m mostly OK

D

I don’t have a problem with this at all

Question 4 of 35

3. Do you find yourself apologizing frequently?

A

Yes I do

B

Not really

Question 5 of 35

4. How often do you do things that make you uncomfortable or that you don’t really want to do?

A

Never

B

Occasionally

C

More often than I'd like

D

All the time

Question 6 of 35

5. How often do you put others’ needs ahead of your own?

A

Never

B

Occasionally

C

More often than I'd like

D

All the time

Question 7 of 35

6. Do you stay in relationships/friendships that make you unhappy?

A

Definitely. This is a common struggle

B

I feel this way a lot, but also have some good relationships/friendships

C

Sometimes this happens, but I don’t let it last too long

D

I don’t have a problem with this at all

Question 8 of 35

7. Do you return to relationships/friendships when you know you shouldn’t?

A

Definitely. This is a constant struggle.

B

I do this a lot, but I can stay away if I know it’s really bad for me

C

Sometimes I will, but I can mostly stay away from bad relationships

D

I don’t have a problem with this at all

Question 9 of 35

8. How often do you let others direct your life?

A

Never

B

Occasionally

C

More often than I'd like

D

All the time

Question 10 of 35

9. Do you frequently give as much as you can, without getting as much or anything in return?

A

Definitely. This is a constant struggle

B

I feel this way a lot, but also have days where it doesn’t bother me

C

Sometimes issues will crop up, but I’m mostly OK

D

I don’t have a problem with this at all

Question 11 of 35

10. How often are you overwhelmed and preoccupied with someone? (always ruminating about their behavior or situations that have happened)

A

Never

B

Occasionally

C

More often than I'd like

D

All the time

Question 12 of 35

11. How often do you commit yourself to something that you don’t have the time, energy, or desire for?

A

Never

B

Occasionally

C

More often than I'd like

D

All the time

Question 13 of 35

12. Do you frequently let others define you? (letting them tell you who you are, what you like, how you feel)

A

Definitely. This is a constant struggle

B

I feel this way a lot, but also have times when I push back

C

Sometimes this will crop up, but I’m mostly OK at telling them not to do that

D

I don’t have a problem with this at all

Question 14 of 35

13. Are you able to assert yourself to ask for what you want?

A

Yes, I’m great at this

B

Most of the time, but sometimes I stay quiet when I know I shouldn’t

C

I do occasionally, but it’s really uncomfortable

D

I have no idea how to do this

Question 15 of 35

14. Do you always feel responsible for other people's feelings and problems?

A

Definitely. This is my constant state of being

B

I feel this way a lot, but also have times when I don’t

C

Sometimes this will crop up, but I’m mostly OK at not taking it on myself

D

I don’t have a problem with this at all

Question 16 of 35

15. How often do you complain to others instead of speaking directly to the person who is causing a problem?

A

Never

B

Occasionally

C

More often than I'd like

D

All the time

Question 17 of 35

16. Do you become easily overwhelmed emotionally?

A

All the time

B

Occasionally, when things build up too much

C

Not really

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Question 19 of 35

17. How often do you seek approval of others?

A

Never

B

Occasionally

C

More often than I'd like

D

All the time

Question 20 of 35

18.  Are you able to separate your self-worth from what you believe others think of you?

A

Yes, I’m great at this

B

Most of the time, but sometimes the line is blurry

C

I can occasionally, but I’m not skilled at knowing the difference

D

I don’t know how to do this at all

Question 21 of 35

19. How often do you feel self-conscious and experience social anxiety?

A

Never

B

Occasionally

C

More often than I'd like

D

All the time

Question 22 of 35

20. How often do you say yes when you want to say no?

A

Never

B

Occasionally

C

More often than I'd like

D

All the time

Question 23 of 35

21. How often do you feel guilty when you do say no?

A

Never

B

Occasionally

C

More often than I'd like

D

All the time

Question 24 of 35

22. Do you frequently adopt someone else’s ideas or beliefs so they will accept you?

A

Definitely. I do this all the time.

B

I do this a lot, but I also resist occasionally

C

Sometimes I do, but I’m mostly OK at holding my own

D

I don’t have a problem with this at all

Question 25 of 35

23. Do you feel comfortable calling out someone who mistreats you?

A

Yes, I’m great at this

B

Most of the time, but sometimes I stay quiet when I know I shouldn’t

C

I do occasionally, but it’s really uncomfortable

D

I have no idea how to do this

Question 26 of 35

24. How often do you become overly involved in someone else’s problems?

A

Never

B

Occasionally

C

More often than I'd like

D

All the time

Question 27 of 35

25. Are you good at communicating your emotional needs in your closest relationships?

A

Yes, I’m great at this

B

Most of the time, but sometimes I stay quiet when I know I shouldn’t

C

I do occasionally, but it’s really uncomfortable

D

I have no idea how to do this

Question 28 of 35

26. Do you avoid difficult conversations because you’re afraid of confrontation or of displeasing someone?

A

Yes I do

B

Not really

Question 29 of 35

27. How often do you do things out of a sense of obligation, instead of protecting your energy and time for things you’re enthusiastic about?

A

Never

B

Occasionally

C

More often than I'd like

D

All the time

Question 31 of 35

28. How often do you spend time with people who drain you, or that you don’t really like to be around?

A

Never

B

Occasionally

C

More often than I'd like

D

All the time

Question 32 of 35

29. Do you feel that you do a lot for other people, but they don’t appreciate it?

A

Definitely. This is a constant struggle

B

I feel this way a lot, but also have days where it doesn’t bother me

C

Sometimes issues will crop up, but I’m mostly OK

D

I don’t have a problem with this at all

Question 33 of 35

30. How often do you ignore problems or stay quiet to “keep the peace”?

A

Never

B

Occasionally

C

More often than I'd like

D

All the time

Question 34 of 35

31. How often do you expect others to know what you need without telling them?

A

Never. I always communicate my needs

B

Most of the time I communicate my needs, but sometimes I don’t think I should have to

C

I expect this most of the time from the people closest to me

D

All the time. Isn’t it obvious?

Question 35 of 35

32. Do you experience difficulty with being honest about your needs and expectations?

A

Definitely. This is a constant struggle

B

I feel this way a lot, but also have days where I can be truthful

C

Sometimes issues will crop up, but I’m mostly OK

D

I don’t have a problem with this at all

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